As we always used to heard people saying …..

- control your emotion
- don't get angry
- do not be afraid

which in fact, is not totally true at all.

 

As a fact, we can never control our emotions.

After all, we are humans.

Humans have emotions.

Just take one for example.

When someone suddenly approach you, and give a whack on your face without any particular reason, what is your immediate feeling?

Some will feel scared, some felt shock, most people like me, will feel angry.

These are the emotions that you CAN NOT control, because it just happens, and pop up immediately right out of no where.

But, any actions that you choose following those emotions, ARE controllable. 

 

The recent post by Dr. Brett on Moving Beyond Fear And Anxiety really says it all, and I really love how he puts it:-

"Everyone gets scared, even the best of the best. In fact, sometimes being scared is the most rational reaction to a given situation. There's no shame in that. It's when people give in to those feelings that they get into trouble."

'Feeling fear is okay so long as you don't act afraid or make a decision because you are afraid.'

The distinction is important. It is not a problem to feel fear; the problem occurs when we allow fear to drive decision-making. Success is not banishing anxiety, but learning to tolerate and contain it.

Ironically, it is in embracing one's fears that we learn from them–and prevent them from reactively driving our decisions.

Don't be afraid of fear and anxiety.

Embrace them, contain them, and learn to grow from them.