As we always used to heard people saying .....

- control your emotion
- don't get angry
- do not be afraid

which in fact, is not totally true at all.

 

As a fact, we can never control our emotions.

After all, we are humans.

Humans have emotions.

Just take one for example.

When someone suddenly approach you, and give a whack on your face without any particular reason, what is your immediate feeling?

Some will feel scared, some felt shock, most people like me, will feel angry.

These are the emotions that you CAN NOT control, because it just happens, and pop up immediately right out of no where.

But, any actions that you choose following those emotions, ARE controllable. 

 

The recent post by Dr. Brett on Moving Beyond Fear And Anxiety really says it all, and I really love how he puts it:-

"Everyone gets scared, even the best of the best. In fact, sometimes being scared is the most rational reaction to a given situation. There's no shame in that. It's when people give in to those feelings that they get into trouble." 'Feeling fear is okay so long as you don't act afraid or make a decision because you are afraid.' The distinction is important. It is not a problem to feel fear; the problem occurs when we allow fear to drive decision-making. Success is not banishing anxiety, but learning to tolerate and contain it. Ironically, it is in embracing one's fears that we learn from them--and prevent them from reactively driving our decisions.

Don't be afraid of fear and anxiety.

Embrace them, contain them, and learn to grow from them.

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The Key To Success, And Living A Fulfilling Life

As I've mentioned quite a number of times, a person will perform best if he aligns his strategy according to his own personality.

In order to achieve that, I personally find that, it all depends on how well you actually understands yourself.

Self understanding is an art easier said than done, and I'm still in the process of learning to understand myself better everyday.

But still, I find that the below 2 post really does the job well in helping those that are really interested in delving into this area:-

• Living A Fulfilling Live

1. Align your heart with the right direction 2. Trust your heart 3. Forget your plans (at least for a while) 4. Open your mind to new possibilities 5. Calm down 6. Listen to the small voice within you 7. Be careful of rationalization 8. Build the courage to follow your heart

• Finding Your Passion

1. What are you good at? 2. What excites you? 3. What do you read about? 4. What have you secretly dreamed of? 5. Learn, ask, take notes. 6. Experiment, try. 7. Narrow things down. 8. Banish your fears. 9. Find the time. 10. How to make a living doing it.

My own personal conclusion after reading those 2 blogs:-

Notice that how both post strongly stressed on the importance of

• What are you good at?
  What excites you?
  Align your heart with the right direction
  Trust your heart
  

Everything is pointing towards the same goal, which is:- to Understand Yourself More.

The more you understand yourself, the better you will be at designing your own strategy, your own strategy to life.

Calm Down ....... Listen to the small voices within me ................

That's what I've really got to learn right now.

What about you?

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It's not the strategy that doesn't work. It's the person.

 

How many times have you heard people complaining that, this strategy doesn't work, I've tried it before, it just doesn't work.

But how come the other person whom you got this strategy from, is having this strategy working so well for him? You may ask.

Well, I guess it's not the problem of the strategy at all. The problem actually lies on the person that uses that strategy !

 

 

In my personal opinion, and from personal experience, I myself have even been thru all the above mentioned stages. 

A lot of times, we find one particular strategy, and that we see it working sooooo well on a particular person, making him so successful that we think that if we were to use the same strategy, it would work well with us too.

Little did we notice that, the strategy just doesn't work on us !

 

 

Why is that so?

Well, I believe, most of the people, when they see/found a very successful person using a particular strategy, will think that they have found the holy grail to that field, and try to accustom themselves to suit to that strategy.

The truth is, it is much more easier to do it the other way round.

We should be looking/designing a strategy that suits our character/life style/habit, rather than changing ourselves to suit a particular strategy.

 

 

 

Not only it works better on you, you tend to believe that works for you, because the strategy 

- aligns with your personal believe
- aligns with your personal values
- aligns with your personal life style
- you feel most comfortable executing it compared to other strategies
- and thus, you will most likely be successful with this strategy in a shorter period of time.

 

 

A few of my personal examples/experience:-

 

 

Football/soccer

• Self Realization
• My pro is in long running stamina.
• I'm just not good at short sprint.
• I like long running distance. I'm just not that type of person who is good a sprints, which is what most important to a striker.

• My own strategy
• And so, I decided to pick up as a mid fielder instead.
• Works well on me, as that's what I do best, running up supporting the strikers, and down, backing up the defenders.

Badminton

• Self Realization
• I've knee dislocation before.
• Fast speed does not suit my game.
  
• My strength is in my skills/strokes, not power.
  

• My own strategy
• Decided to play a defensive game, rather than an offensive game.
  
• Defensive game requires more stroke play, and long haul stamina, while offensive game is a game need-for-speed.

Trading 

• Self Realization
• I have a full time day job which I like very much.
• I'm staying in a place which is 16hours ahead of the U.S. time.
  

• My own strategy
• Day trading is definitely out of the question, no matter how much I like to do it.
  
• The swing trading  system, suits me well, in terms of time frame wise.

 

 

As a whole, finding/designing the right strategy is as important as working hard towards your goal. With the right strategy, you are already half way winning the battle. 

And how do you find/design a strategy that suits you?

Well, it all lies within you.

Know yourself better ......

Realize your own strength and weaknesses ......

..... and design your own winning strategy to success.

 

 

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