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Posted by lionel319 @ Tue 22 Jul, 08, 06:47PM under Thoughts
I've lost FOCUS !!!!!!!!! When age catch up, From now on, I will focus on my focusing skills ..... Focus on my breathing ~~~
Posted by lionel319 @ Fri 23 May, 08, 10:29AM under Thoughts
Posted by lionel319 @ Mon 14 Apr, 08, 12:12AM under Thoughts
Was with Dan at Queensbay mall for our Weekend family day. We somehow attended to this conversation on how often is it that the majority of the population are still withholding themselves back from doing the things that they actually wanted to do, because they are afraid of how the public and others might see them. As usual, (for those that know me), I kinda encourage Dan on how she and everyone else should just-do-it, if that is really what they feel like doing it, like ME !! (yeah i know. That's a damn farking tua-lampa claim :p). Natures call, and to the toilet. I saw this 70+year old uncle, well dressed, holding his tongkat, hands trembling, trying hard to do something in front of the toilet. It was really a very saddening scene. I have the urge of going forward to help him, but there was really a lot of people there at that moment. I was kinda shy, but still, I couldn't force myself to leave him far, as I couldn't leave him alone ....... I just couldn't. I followed him slowly to the basin, washed his hands right beside him, while peeping my way thru the side of my glasses, seeing how slowly he washed his hand, one side at a time, while changing his tongkat from one side to another, trying to support himself well. Everyone seems to be walking so fast, driving past us one by one on the hallway out. At one time, some phrase -"Walk the Talk" - just striked me. I kept talking cock about the whole thing how everyone was withdrawn from doing the things they really wanna do, but didn't. Eventually, it turned out that I was the biggest @$$hole among them. ...................... When we were small, we get happy whenever other people praised us and gave a pet on our back. Someone once said that this is the so call "Gold Stars" award that is how we were trained all the way. - We were trained that in order for us to get the "Gold Stars", we need to do something good. - We were trained that for doing something good, we were suppose to get "Gold Stars" from others. (and if we were not given, then we feel sad/bad) The solution to that is, stop asking for "Gold Stars" from others. Stop begging. Start by giving yourself your own "Gold Stars". And today, I finally got my own "Gold Stars". Sometimes, you just don't need to have superpowers to be a superhero. ^_^
Posted by lionel319 @ Mon 31 Dec, 07, 02:13PM under Thoughts
It has come to the time of the year where we finally review on the goals that we've set last year, and at the same time, reviewing a new set of goals for the coming year. And guess what? I didn't meet my goals for last year. Not even close. I did not submit 2 photos to ShutterStock every day :P That won't be easy, but nonetheless, we shall see how the progress be as i will be posting my monthly performance here. I never say it is gonna be a very easy thing to achieve, but ....... I will do my best. ^_^
Posted by lionel319 @ Wed 03 Oct, 07, 02:30PM under Thoughts
I just feel this article is too good to be not shared with others, and thus, would really like to quote it out here. Moreover, it really gives me a sense of belonging. A sense that, there is actually someone out there that UNDERSTANDS me.
^_^ Enjoy. [original post from here:- http://briankim.net/blog/2007/10/top-5-things-every-extrovert-should-know-about-introverts/] First off, there are those who are reading this who might not know which camp they fall into, the extrovert or the introvert. Chances are, the majority of those reading this will know, but for those who don’t, let’s define those two terms here very broadly. Extroverts tend to be those who are more energized when around other people. They are the ones who will reach for the cell phone when alone for more than a minute, the ones who love to go out every weekend, the ones who love to chit chat, mingle, and socialize. Introverts tend to be those who are more energized when alone with themselves. They are the ones who have to be dragged to parties, who are the first ones ready to leave after a short period of time, and who generally enjoy solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming. The qualities and characteristics of introverts are often held in a negative light in today’s world, so it’s only natural that the majority of people seem to think that there’s something wrong with them The reason why the majority of people think that there’s something wrong with introverts is because the majority of people aren’t very knowledgeable when it comes to introverts, in terms of why they are the way they are and why they do the things they do. Many people tend to hold several potentially damaging misconceptions about introverts, but through no fault of their own. I’ve been on both sides of the extrovert/introvert fence, and I can understand why extroverts tend to view introverts in a negative light, socially speaking, so I thought it would be best to write an article dedicated to helping extroverts understand their often very misunderstood introvert counterparts. My hope is this article will help solve that problem by shedding some light as to why introverts are the way they are and do the things they do, so here are 5 things every extrovert should know about introverts. 1. If a person is introverted, it does NOT mean they are shy or anti-social. This is probably THE biggest misconception that extroverts tend to have when it comes to introverts. And you can’t really blame them for having that kind of misconception. Extroverts tend to have to drag introverts to parties, to convince them to go and sell them on attending social engagements. When introverts politely decline, extroverts automatically assume that something might be wrong so they always ask if everything’s all right and of course, everything is all right. It’s just a common misunderstanding. When extroverts see a pattern like this developing, they automatically assume that introverts are shy or anti-social as that can be the only logical explanation to them. What’s more, when extroverts try to engage introverts in small talk, it seems like they hit a brick wall. Add to that, most extroverts see that introverts tend to be fond of engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming. Well, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, it must be a duck right? Wrong. Introverts have more brain activity in their frontal lobes and when these areas are activated through solitary activity, introverts become energized through processes such as problem solving, introspection, and complex thinking. Extroverts on the other hand tend to have more activity in the back of their brain, areas that deal with processing sensory information from the external world, so they tend to search for external stimuli in the form of interacting with other people and the outside world to energize them. There’s a deeper science to this that involves differences in the levels of brain chemicals such as acetylcholine and dopamine in extroverts and introverts, but I won’t get into that. The bottom line is that introverts are just wired differently than extroverts. There’s nothing “wrong” with them. They just become energized through different processes depending on where the majority of their brain activity takes place. Granted there are introverts who may be shy and anti-social, but that’s just a coincidence that perpetuates the myth that ALL introverts are like that. You’ll find that all introverts are fine just the way they are until people begin to subtly suggest otherwise. 2. Introverts tend to dislike small talk. If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in people’s minds to see what’s really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless it’s with someone new they just met. This characteristic probably contributes to another misconception that extroverts have of introverts - the misconception that all introverts are arrogant. Why? Because extroverts notice that introverts don’t talk that much with other people. Therefore, extroverts assume that introverts think they’re too good to talk to others, hence arrogant and that’s hardly the case. It’s just a matter of preference. Extroverts thrive on small talk. There’s nothing wrong with either choice, it’s just a matter of preference. This brings us to the third point. 3. Introverts do like to socialize – only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts. Yes, it’s true. Contrary to the majority of public opinion, introverts do like to socialize, but again, only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts. Introverts love anything that involves deep conversation. They get energized by discussing subjects that are important to them and they love see what and how other people think, to connect the dots, to dig deep, to find root causes, to use logical thinking via debate in conversation, etc. And what’s more, introverts can do a lot of things extroverts are naturally good at - give great speeches, schmooze with everyone, be the life of the party, charm the socks off of total strangers - but only for a short period of time. After that, they need time for themselves which brings us to the fourth point. 4. Introverts need time alone to recharge. Extroverts tend to think introverts have something against them as they constantly seem to refuse generous invites to social engagements. Introverts do appreciate the offers, but it’s just that they know it will take a lot of energy out of them if they pursue these social functions. They need time alone like they need food and water. Give them their space. There’s nothing wrong with them. They’re not depressed and they’re not sad. They just need time alone to recharge their batteries. 5. Introverts are socially well adjusted. Most introverts are well aware of all the social nuances, customs, and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with other people, but they simply don’t socialize as much as extroverts, which makes it easy for extroverts to assume that introverts are not socially well adjusted, as they have not seen much evidence of them interacting with other people. This just exacerbates previous misconceptions and gives way to labeling introverts as nerds, geeks, loners, etc. It’s easy to understand why society tends to value extroverts over introverts. Human beings have lived in a tribal society so having to interact frequently with people came to be a regarded as a very good skill when it came to survival. But because of this high value placed on extroversion, introverts tend to feel trapped and find themselves in a catch 22 situation. Do introverts stay true to who they are and risk social alienation and isolation or do introverts conform and join the extroverted side, pretending to be somebody they’re not just to fit in? This is precisely why I wrote this article, because if the extroverts can become more educated about introverts, introverts will be able to feel free to stay true to who they are, and that’s a good thing from society’s point of view. Trying to “turn” an introverted person into an extroverted person is detrimental because it gives off a subtle suggestion that there is something wrong with them, hampering their self worth and esteem when there is absolutely nothing wrong in the first place. There’s nothing wrong with introverts. In fact, introverts are the leading pioneers of advancements in human civilization. Albert Einstein, Issac Newton, Charles Darwin are a few introverts that come to mind, just to name a few. And for those of you not interested in science, but pop culture, you’ll be surprised to see a lot of well known names in Hollywood are introverts as well. Julia Roberts, Steven Spielberg, Tom Cruise to name a few as well. And for those interested in sports, Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods come to mind as athletes who are introverts as well. Introverts have a lot to bring to the table. They have an amazing ability to discover new thoughts, an uncanny ability to focus, to concentrate, to connect the dots, to observe and note things that most people miss, to listen extremely well and are often found having a rich and vivid imagination as well. The more extroverts become knowledgeable about introverts, the less tension and misunderstanding there will be among the two. So if you’re an introvert reading this, send a copy of this article to all your extrovert friends so they can get a better idea of what you’re all about. It’s time to finally clear the air.
Posted by lionel319 @ Fri 22 Jun, 07, 04:01PM under Thoughts
Everyone takes action base on a reference towards the emotional state of PAIN and PLEASURE. Every judgement, every decision made by every human, though sometimes seems like kinda irrational, or seems like they've been made subconsciously, fact is, they are been made based on the above mentioned 2 emotional state.
All decisions made are either to avoid PAIN, or to gain PLEASURE. As for me, I was having a email conversation with a friend of mine. Something triggers me. I noticed the fact that, a lot of friends around me has frequently told me that I'm that kind of people which couldn't lose. I throw tantrums whenever i'm in the loosing site. Come to think about it, although i hate to admit it, it IS A FACT. Even those friends that when they told me this, i kinda find it quite ....... annoying. Sad to say, I'm a very very extremely damp 9 kiasu type of person. But, come to think about it, I believe there's a solid reason behind all this. And to make it possitive, here's my verdict. I hate to lose ever since the day i start to remember. I think hard, but still to no avail of finding the cause of it. I link the feeling of EXTREME PAIN so hard with losing that, at times, i even show bad sportsmanship. But, it's a good sign for me. My subconscious mind does all kinds of decision base on this thinking and in order to avoid extreme pain, that's my secret weapon that drives me into self improvement. As long as i can handle the tantrum and bad attitude part well, i believe this isn't a good thing at all. And again, I would just like to say, yes, i admit, You said i am very kiasu, I won't deny that fact, but rather, instead of thinking that I'm kiasu, i would rather place myself in a higher class. I would say ..... ...... I'm HIGHLY COMPETITIVE......
Posted by lionel319 @ Mon 18 Jun, 07, 10:46AM under Thoughts
There's nothing more devastating that having a confidence breakdown. Sad to say, i just had one of this kinda experience lately.
I believe everyone has this kind of experience before. We just can not run away from going thru it. It all depends on how well one will be able to handle it. 1. Opinion 2. Belief 3. Conviction Everyone first start of by having an Opinion. From that opinion, we slowly gather information to build up the legs of our table top. Once the legs are strong and solid, the opinion will be embedded into our subconscious mind, and thus, makes it our personal BELIEF. A Conviction is something even stronger than a belief. It involves in a persons emotion and spirit. A person wuth such strong conviction is sometimes totally shunt off from any outer discrimination against their belief that they might go all out to even protect their conviction.
Posted by lionel319 @ Wed 23 May, 07, 04:48PM under Thoughts
There are times in life when ……Football was my everything Which I could skip tuition, and go for practicing, And even rewind-forward, on each of Michel Platini’s dribbling, Everything changed until the day I started limping.
There are times in life when …… Basketball was my everything A piece of paper, hanging to a rope on my room’s ceiling, Every night before I sleep, there’ll be some jumping, Till the count reaching 100 something, Everything changed when I found out there’s no way I could touch the rim.
There are times in life when …… Tennis was my everything There’s no stopping in the daily 3-5pm training. Everything changed when I found out that badminton was way more interesting.
There are times in life when …… Swimming was my everything Leaving office at 5:15 sharp is a sure thing. Doing 50laps+ everyday was just refreshing Everything changed when I moved far away from CRC.
There are times in life when …… Cross Country was my everything I could wake up 6am and go jogging Just to be the top 10 in the Cross Country competition in Chung Ling Everything changed when it becomes boring.
There are times in life when …… Badminton was my everything My grandpa would give me intensive training And all my racquets, he would do the paying Although I partnered him in most of the bettings We lost more of it, and still he is very encouraging Every Monday and Wednesday 5:30pm he would be waiting For me to come back from tuition and start preparing And off we go to Ramakrisnan, to do some dropping and lobbing And of course, after that, there will be some dining And all the way he will fetch me home, and of he go alone, driving Everything changed when grandpa stopped playing Everything changed when grandpa started leaving Everything changed, but I hold strong, and hopping That the things change must not be this thing As this is what keeps me remembering Of the existence of my grandpa in me within Everything can change, but not this thing As this is what me and my grandpa has been holding I promise you, grandpa, that I will again, start living With all the fire and keeps me burning, As I know that you will always be seeing Over my shoulder, loving and caring.
Posted by lionel319 @ Mon 21 May, 07, 03:35PM under Thoughts
Just finished the korean drama with Dan. It's a 16 series, full of heart warming, touching and funny scenes. It keeps you laughing, cursing, and at the same time, crying together with the story. At least, from my side, it kept me thinking non stop on the whole story, again and again and again, even after i completed the drama. The song keeps lingering in my head, the story line makes me weak most of the time. I forgot where I read this from, but it is for sure a strong statement that reflects the story:- When people don't love you they way you want them to,
Posted by lionel319 @ Tue 17 Apr, 07, 10:36AM under Thoughts
It's been a while since i took a break. Things has never been the same as what it used to be anymore. I almost stopped practicing positivity ...... I almost stopped my daily 30 min photography session ...... I almost never played sudoku anymore ...... I have been taking time off from active paper trading ..... The could no longer get back the feel of my touch when playing badminton ...... I don't know how long more do I need for this break. The world is still spinning at the same rate, but I'm not. |
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